Running on Empty

Informationen zum Autor Jonice Webb has a PhD in clinical psychology, and has been licensed to practice since 1991. She has a strong background in research, psychological testing and psychotherapy. Webb has been the Director of three large outpatient clinics over the course of her career. She currently has a private psychotherapy practice in Lexington, MA, where she specializes in the treatment of couples and adolescents. Webb currently resides in the Boston area with her husband and two children. Klappentext A large segment of the population struggles with feelings of being detached from themselves and their loved ones. They feel flawed, and blame themselves. Running on Empty will help them realize that they're suffering not because of something that happened to them in childhood, but because of something that didn't happen. It's the white space in their family picture, the background rather than the foreground. This will be the first self-help book to bring this invisible force to light, educate people about it, and teach them how to overcome it. Zusammenfassung This informative guide helps you identify and heal from childhood emotional neglect so you can be more connected and emotionally present in your life. Do you sometimes feel like you're just going through the motions in life? Do you often act like you're fine when you secretly feel lonely and disconnected? Perhaps you have a good life and yet somehow it's not enough to make you happy. Or perhaps you drink too much, eat too much, or risk too much in an attempt to feel something good. If so, you are not aloneand you may be suffering from emotional neglect. A practicing psychologist for more than twenty years, Jonice Webb has successfully treated numerous patients who come to her believing that something is missing inside them. While many self-help books deal with what happened to you as a child, in Running on Empty, Webb addresses the things that may not have happened for you. What goes unsaidor what cannot be rememberedcan have profound consequences that may be affecting you to this day. Running on Empty will help you understand your experiences and give you clear strategies for healing. It also includes a special chapter for mental health professionals. Inhaltsverzeichnis Preface Acknowledgements Introduction Emotional Neglect Questionnaire Part I: Running on Empty Chapter 1: Why Wasn't the Tank Filled? The Ordinary Healthy Parent in Action Chapter 2: Twelve Ways to End Up Empty Type 1: The Narcissistic Parent Type 2: The Authoritarian Parent Type 3: The Permissive Parent Type 4: The Bereaved Parent: Divorced or Widowed Type 5: The Addicted Parent Type 6: The Depressed Parent Type 7: The Workaholic Parent Type 8: The Parent with a Special Needs Family Member Type 9: The Achievement/Perfection Focused Parent Type 10:The Sociopathic Parent Type 11:Child as Parent Type 12:The Well-Meaning-but-Neglected-Themselves Parent Part II: Out of Fuel Chapter 3: The Neglected Child, All Grown Up 1. Feelings of Emptiness 2. Counter-Dependence 3. Unrealistic Self-Appraisal 4. No Compassion for Self, Plenty for Others 5. Guilt and Shame: What is Wrong With Me? 6. Self-Directed Anger, Self-Blame 7. The Fatal Flaw (If People Really Know Me They Won't Like Me) 8. Difficulty Nurturing Self and Others 9. Poor Self-Discipline 10. Alexithymia Chapter 4: Cognitive Secrets: The Special Problem of Suicidal Feelings Part III: Filling the Tank Chapter 5: How Change Happens Factors That Get in the Way of Successful Change Chapter 6: Why Feelings Matter and What to Do with Them 1. Understanding the Purpose and Value of Your Emotions 2. Identifying and Naming Your Feelings 3. Learning to Self-Monitor Your Feelings 4. Accepting and Trusting...

Klappentext

A large segment of the population struggles with feelings of being detached from themselves and their loved ones. They feel flawed, and blame themselves. Running on Empty will help them realize that they're suffering not because of something that happened to them in childhood, but because of something that didn't happen. It's the white space in their family picture, the background rather than the foreground. This will be the first self-help book to bring this invisible force to light, educate people about it, and teach them how to overcome it.

Zusammenfassung
This informative guide helps you identify and heal from childhood emotional neglect so you can be more connected and emotionally present in your life. Do you sometimes feel like you're just going through the motions in life? Do you often act like you're fine when you secretly feel lonely and disconnected? Perhaps you have a good life and yet somehow it's not enough to make you happy. Or perhaps you drink too much, eat too much, or risk too much in an attempt to feel something good. If so, you are not aloneand you may be suffering from emotional neglect. A practicing psychologist for more than twenty years, Jonice Webb has successfully treated numerous patients who come to her believing that something is missing inside them. While many self-help books deal with what happened to you as a child, in Running on Empty, Webb addresses the things that may not have happened for you. What goes unsaidor what cannot be rememberedcan have profound consequences that may be affecting you to this day. Running on Empty will help you understand your experiences and give you clear strategies for healing. It also includes a special chapter for mental health professionals.

Inhalt
Preface
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Emotional Neglect Questionnaire

Part I: Running on Empty
Chapter 1: Why Wasn’t the Tank Filled?
The Ordinary Healthy Parent in Action
Chapter 2: Twelve Ways to End Up Empty
Type 1: The Narcissistic Parent
Type 2: The Authoritarian Parent
Type 3: The Permissive Parent
Type 4: The Bereaved Parent: Divorced or Widowed
Type 5: The Addicted Parent
Type 6: The Depressed Parent
Type 7: The Workaholic Parent
Type 8: The Parent with a Special Needs Family Member
Type 9: The Achievement/Perfection Focused Parent
Type 10:The Sociopathic Parent
Type 11:Child as Parent
Type 12:The Well-Meaning-but-Neglected-Themselves Parent

Part II: Out of Fuel
Chapter 3: The Neglected Child, All Grown Up

1. Feelings of Emptiness
2. Counter-Dependence
3. Unrealistic Self-Appraisal
4. No Compassion for Self, Plenty for Others
5. Guilt and Shame: What is Wrong With Me?
6. Self-Directed Anger, Self-Blame
7. The Fatal Flaw (If People Really Know Me They Won’t Like Me)
8. Difficulty Nurturing Self and Others
9. Poor Self-Discipline

10. Alexithymia
    Chapter 4: Cognitive Secrets: The Special Problem of Suicidal Feelings

    Part III: Filling the Tank
    Chapter 5: How Change Happens
    Factors That Get in the Way of Successful Change
    Chapter 6: Why Feelings Matter and What to Do with Them

11. Understanding the Purpose and Value of Your Emotions
12. Identifying and Naming Your Feelings
13. Learning to Self-Monitor Your Feelings
14. Accepting and Trusting Your Own Feelings
15. Learning to Express Your Feelings Effectively
16. Recognizing, Understanding and Valuing Emotions in Relationships
    Chapter 7: Self-Care
    Self-Care Part 1. Learning to Nurture Yourself
    Self-Care Part 2. Improving Self-Discipline
    Self-Care Part 3. Self-Soothing
    Self-Care Part 4. Having Compassion for Yourself
    Chapter 8: Ending the Cycle: Giving Your Child What You Never Got
17. Your Parental Guilt
18. The Changes You Have Made So Far

19. Identify Your Own Specific Parenting Challenges
    Chapter 9: For the Therapist
    Research
    Identification of Emotional Neglect
    Treatment
    Summary for the Therapist
    Conclusion

    Resources for Recovery

    References